Your Ex-Piece of What?

A friend once dated a girl who referred to every former boyfriend as "my ex-piece of shit". I kid you not!

So I said to her one day, "So when does he become your next piece of shit?" She says "Oh, I'd never say that about him! I love him."

Sure enough, what did she call him the next time he displeased her? You guessed it. And he threw it back at her, "I thought you loved me!" but it did nothing to change her behavior. Sure enough she did it again, in their very next argument.

But his point of view had changed pretty dramatically in the meantime, and he dumped her --- with her calling him a piece of shit the whole time.

The moral of the story here is that no matter what a person says, look at what she does. She used to love those ex-pieces of shit too. If your current partner has absolutely NO respect for any of her former partners, she doesn't likely respect you either --- or certainly won't sooner or later.

This same axiom applies for respect for one's parents by the way. We all know people who have had terrible parents, so I'm not talking about those people. I mean the ones who say terrible things about those perfectly nice people you just met. That is a major red flag. I've always believed that if a man doesn't respect his (perfectly nice) mother, he's never going to respect me.